The quality of our lives boils down to this: the nature of our relationship with ourselves and those around us.
We want to be happy and loved. We want our lives to mean something to someone else too. We are constantly taking actions and moving towards people we think will make our lives better.
The goal itself is simple but the players (you and others) aren’t. People can be quite erratic. We, on the other hand, are constantly making wrong assumptions about what we really need to be happy.
We create conditions here and there, and without realizing it, we’ve…
A conversation doesn’t have to go on for hours to be interesting.
In fact, in most cases, shorter conversations are more memorable because they leave you wanting more.
But nonetheless, being able to keep a conversation going for a long time is still an extremely valuable skill to have.
For instance, if you’re on a date, it is ideal that you and your date have something to say to each other throughout the date. Or let’s say you’re waiting for your bus to arrive while talking with a stranger, it will be great to keep the conversation going till your…
Good flirting connects two people both physically, emotionally, and sexually.
And though it’s been given a bad rap, flirting goes beyond just sounding sexual, or sending dirty text messages. The true value that comes from flirting is in a simple fact that it indicates interest and acceptance.
When you flirt with someone, you are in essence saying — with or without words — that you find them appealing both sexually and physically even though there might no possibility of sex between the two of you yet.
Understood properly, flirting should be seen as a gesture we use to remind others…
We learn a lot about ourselves from our experiences than we do from school.
Now, this isn’t another article about how the education system has failed us. Rather, the point here is that the task of learning about ourselves must be conducted individually.
No one can understand you better than you do yourself. Your intuition and your understanding of the world are one of a kind. You are unique.
That said, here are 4 simple steps you can take towards understanding yourself better.
The legendary psychoanalyst and psychiatrist Carl Jung once wrote concerning the shadow [emphasis mine],
“The shadow is…
Most productivity advice on the internet is exhausting and boring. And it’s no wonder why. They are repetitions of the same old stuff: Never procrastinate, don’t be afraid to fail, wake up by 5:00 am, work out, the list goes on.
And though those who promote these ideas mean well for their audiences, these pieces of advice can easily become toxic rather than helpful.
Look at it this way: Most of the people who go to the internet for advice are not searching for suggestions or inspiration. They don’t pick what they find with skepticism. They go looking for prescriptions…
Over the years, with the world becoming increasingly complex and with stronger forms of distractions, the need to be able to maintain balance within ourselves has become a top priority.
The idea is that though we don’t have control over outside events, if we can, through self-awareness, control our internal state, then we will have a balanced mental state.
Mystics, spiritual leaders, stoics, and philosophers, have all echoed it in different ways. And though we need self-awareness now more than ever, so many people neither know what it entails nor how to cultivate it.
The more self-aware you are, the…
Though no one builds negative personality traits intentionally, there are several people walking through life miserable, angry, and resentful because of them.
Most likely, these people never agree that the misery, anger, and resentment they feel is their fault.
They’ll rather look to the external to seek solutions and distribute blames rather than changing the negative parts of their personality.
This is why countering the negative aspects of our character depends on how well we can look through our lives and habits with a fine-toothed comb and courageously admit what things need changing about us.
That said, here is a…
One of the central messages of the Indian mystic, Sadhguru is that “we can only control what’s on our minds, not outside events.” And it’s no wonder why he puts most of his effort into getting this message across.
The thing is, if we can learn to respond, instead of reacting to the situations life throws at us, we are free. It means we’ve taken our mood and happiness from fate and chance into our own hands. This is why developing the habits of mind is important.
In 1996, Arthur L. Costa, a professor of Education at the California state…
Building high self-esteem isn’t like building muscles.
There are no exercises or specific routines to get you started. You don’t necessarily need to read more books or know more (though this can help).
Instead, what you need is a better understanding of who you are and what you are capable of as a full-fledged human being.
You are a powerful creature. The president of the United States and a top celebrity in Hollywood have just the same potential as you.
But what sets them apart is that they built a mindset that made them able to harness their potential to…
According to CDC, the suicide rate between teens and youths rose by 60% between 2007 and 2018.
More people are getting depressed, anxious, and tired of life now more than ever. Why?
There is a sense of worthlessness.
As the clinical psychologist, Anthony P. DeMaria, Ph.D., explained, one of the major reasons people commit suicide is hopelessness.
People decide to end it when they lose all sense of any significance attached to their lives; when the pain of staying alive becomes higher than the pain of death.
Truth be told.
Sometimes life can be so dark it’s hard to see…